Every mother is different, yet most of us love our mothers. My mom worked full-time, yet made certain I could pursue my interests.
She may not have been at every softball, volleyball or basketball game, but she encouraged me to work hard, develop my skills and follow my dreams. She may not have seen me march in the band, but she made certain I practiced my clarinet. She never did my homework for me, but absolutely insisted I do it myself.
My mother was often a source of information and advice even after I became an adult. Perhaps, especially after I became an adult, because then I was willing to listen.
Mom, however, left this walk of life on July 7, 2010. I was grown with adult children of my own. I guess it doesn’t matter how old you are, it will still hurt to lose your mother.
Certain sights, smells, circumstances or sayings will remind me of Mom. This past week I had two occasions to think of her. The first was when my daughter called asking for advice. She is a teacher’s aide who works with an autistic child. She had a situation and wanted to know what I thought she should do. I remembered my own mother and how I would look to her for answers.
The second time I thought of her was while watching a TV show. It shows a young boy sitting next to his
mother’s bedside as she died. I, too, was with my mom when she passed. While it isn’t uncommon for me to shed a tear while watching an emotional story, this was different. It wasn’t merely a tear or two, but full-fledged crying that I couldn’t seem to stop. Even more than seven years later I guess I still miss her more than I realized.
If, like me, your mother is no longer a part of this world, cherish the memories you have and remember the lessons she taught. Those are the things that help me deal with my loss.
If your mother is still living, make sure she knows how much you love her, even if you don’t like her advice.